Laughter & Love: The Greatest Gift From A Terminally Ill Wisconsin Mom

heartHappy New Year! It has been a few weeks since I have written a blog post, and I’m happy to be back at it. I hope the holidays were full of adventure and love for you all. Ours were full of all that plus a lot of Star Wars, of course. If you haven’t already seen the new movie, I highly recommend it. Good stuff.

As 2016 kicks off, I look forward to a year of growth and happiness for all. I truly enjoy what I do to enable families to plan for their loved ones and their lives with their eyes wide open. I am grateful for this platform to share important information with you all.

This week’s post is about how someone special did something amazing for her loved ones. Similarly, we digitally record a priceless conversation with our clients as a part of our process in estate planning and it is truly the best and most meaningful part of what we do.

The Best Gift You Can Leave to Your Loved Ones

A Wisconsin woman, whose story was widely reported in media nationwide, passed away last month. Heather McManamy, who was diagnosed with cancer in 2013, was told her condition was terminal in 2014.

She began reflecting on what the future lives of her friends and family would be like after she passed away, and gained national popularity as the dying mother who had written cards for many of her daughter’s future milestones.

She particularly wanted to communicate life lessons and advice to her daughter, Brianna, who is only a toddler. So McManamy decided to write greeting cards for big events in her daughter’s life, to be opened as each occasion took place.
The Wisconsin mom left over 40 different cards for events in her daughter’s life, including formal events such as birthdays and her wedding, as well as informal ones, such as advice for bad days and her first breakup.

McManamy also prepared a note for her husband to post on her Facebook page, which he did after her death in December. Her note showed her love of life and for her friends and family.

McManamy’s announcement of her death, like her greeting card notes to her daughter, left wise advice for its readers:

“From the bottom of my heart, I wish all my friends long, healthy lives and I hope you can experience the same appreciation for the gift of each day that I did. . . . Please do me a favor and take a few minutes each day to acknowledge the fragile adventure that is this crazy life. Don’t ever forget: every day matters.”

McManamy’s memoirs will be published in book form in April 2016, “Cards for Brianna: A Lifetime of Lessons and Love from a Dying Mother to Her Daughter.”

McManamy’s positive attitude and writings also serve as sage advice of something we too often forget. Preparing for and facing death openly and honestly is a gift to our loved ones because it allows us to leave behind what really matters, not just what we’ve accumulated financially, but our wisdom, our love and our leadership.

That’s why we build Family Legacy Interviews into our estate planning process, so we can ensure you leave behind what really matters. Give us a call today if you’d love to ensure you leave a legacy of love to the ones you care about most.
This article is a service of Amie Mendoza, Personal Family Lawyer®. One of the objectives of our law practice is to keep families out of court and out of conflict. Our lawyers can help you protect those you love using a Family Life & Legacy Planning Session. Call our office today to schedule a time for us to sit down and identify the best strategies for you and your family.